A touching vignette about the importance of family milestones and ‘lasting’ until them for cancer patients. One of the ‘benefits’ of cancer is that, unlike strokes or heart attacks, one knows that the end is coming and can plan around it to some degree, in addition to the motivating effect of being there for a key family moment.
Rings all too true. Last year, my goal was to be for my daughter’s high school graduation, now it is for my son’s university graduation this June. Not willing to tempt fate by aiming further, but having an objective each year is an important coping mechanism for me.
“You can see I made it to the wedding,” he said, smiling broadly, as I studied the image of him in a suit, locking arms with his granddaughter, the bride. The two of them were bordered by the opened doors of the church, stained glass windows on either side, his face bearing that familiar look of consuming love, joy and pride — along with a little fear, that at any moment he might start sobbing in front of all of his buddies and co-workers attending the ceremony. I have the same photograph in my own wedding album, of my father-in-law with my wife-to-be.
“You should have heard the gasp from everyone in the church when he came through those doors with our granddaughter,” his wife exclaimed. “I mean, no one thought he would even be there!”